The Girls’ Birthday Presents.
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Oh, birthday parties! Don’t you just love attending children’s birthday parties? The vibrant energy in one (sans the clowns, please) is just so exhilarating. We recently celebrated one of our darling niece’s 9th birthday. ’Twas a big party, filled with so many colourful balloons, ribbons, horses, ponies with pretty braids & glorious sweet treats! I must admit, it is the event of the year in our social calendar.
We thought a knitted balloon unicorn would be a fantastic present. Unfortunately, I didn’t have the luxury of time to design & perfect the pattern so I borrowed something else from a fellow knitter – a lamb! It might not coincide with the party’s theme but no little girl who loves everything cute would be able to resist one, yea?
I had to make two lambs. Why so? Their father requested that I make an identical one for the younger sister (although her birthday is in November) so they wouldn’t be squabbling over the lamb if I were to only make one. You see, these two sisters possess completely different characters. You might assume they wouldn’t share anything in common because of that, but trust me you, they actually do! And when they are both infatuated with the same things, be ready to play the referee so no one (sometimes, both) person will end up in tears.
Fret not… No fights of theirs will last more than a minute nor escalate into anything bitter. They will offer peace offerings, share and play together afterwards. It is rather endearing to know that despite it all, they love each other very much. The compassion & protectiveness they’ve exhibited would be one of the most beautiful things we’re so privileged to have witnessed.
This of course, inevitably lead the mind to begin swirling around the complex relationships between siblings – my own included.
How was it for you & your brothers or sisters?
I will be very honest – albeit having a fantastic childhood so blessed with love & joy, I did not have much of a relationship with my brother until recently that is, when we’ve both reached & passed the big 3-0 milestone (that would be a story to be told on another day). On the other hand, my sister & I have built such a strong bond since we were children, despite the seven years gap between us.
Now, how did my brother & I lost three decades of our lives not bothering to be involved in each other’s lives?
Was gender the culprit?
It may merely be coincidental, stigmas even, but I also happen to know someone else’s relationship with his sister is a suffocatingly toxic one & it goes the other way round for another pair – she resents him & would avoid him like a plague. Breaks the heart to see siblings behaving this way or worse, going at each other all the time, doesn’t it?
So if gender isn’t a factor, would it be the age gaps?
I don’t think I’m able to put my finger precisely on any particular reason for sure, except for the realisation that all of these terrible consequences we face as adults would most definitely stemmed from when we ourselves were children. What mould relationships between siblings today appears to be chains of numerous cause & effect which spanned over the years.
Overpraising for example, spurred rivalries that strained relationships. I suppose playing favourites too, has long been a speculation especially when a child feels that there isn’t any security – assurance from parents that there is enough love to go around.
Perhaps it could be something as simple as learning to ask for permission, to be respectful & careful when playing with toys or using other’s belongings. It could have prevented a child from harbouring ill feelings & unresolved resentments, yes?
For most times, the subject has still been very much beyond my comprehension actually. I would be incredibly thankful if you lots wouldn’t mind sharing your thoughts on the matter.
As for my brother & I, rest assure that we have made it a point to destroy the divides. Nothing gives us greater pleasure to know that we’re working as a collective effort in mending our broken relationship.
It takes two to tango, they say & boy, oh boy, I couldn’t agree more.
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ABOUT THE PATTERN
The lambs were made from Barbara Prime’s collection of lovely toys. Quite a wonderful pattern to knit with!
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